Why Give A Crap What I Say? It's JUST me.

Why should you give a crap about me? I have no idea... BUT....I want to thank you for joining me on my journey of a super shitty - averagely happy - drama filled - absolutely hilariously funny life.
I clearly feel the need to spill my guts about what is happening in my life to people I don't know. The funniest most off color TRUE stories you've ever heard - and when you least expect it, you'll cry like a baby.

The photo you are seeing is "my" yard in the summer. A home is not a place it is the inhabitants that make it a home.

With love, Alyce

November 27, 2011


Country singer needed desperately in (Chicago)

Date: 2011-11-26, 12:01PM EST
Reply to: alyceiscurious@gmail.com

  • Looking for a specific singer (SHANIA) to come for lunch at my house to meet my Daddy who has Stage IV Kidney Cancer.  His Make-a-Wish is YOU.  WILL you make his dream come true? 
  • The cash payment is meager but the heart payment is priceless. 

  • In addition, we are looking for any AND all COUNTRY SINGERS who would like to participate in the...
Comfort Quilt Project  
  • All ya gotta do is email my mom, Alyce @ alyceiscurious@gmail.com with an address. Then you get a packet that contains a swatch of fabric, a marker, and a self addressed stamped envelope. You sign, draw, write on it.  Easy, FREE, and All these swatches make a quilt for a daddy with cancer from his kids. 

  • Don't be shy.  You know who you are.  You know you're fabulous.  Please know you're needed by my kids.  When they get your autographs they jump for joy.
  • You need not have transportation, as it will be supplied for you.
  • Please email Alyce @ alyceiscurious@gmail.com 
  • Feel free to share this with every single person you know, AND even with people you don't know.
  • Location: Chicago
  • it's A.O.K to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests
PostingID: Please come visit us Shania!

Romance + Pain = ?

 What is...
...ro·mance (r-mns, rmns)
"Conventional Romantic Evening"
a. A love affair.
b. Ardent emotional attachment or involvement between people; love: 
When the one you love is in...

...pain  (pn)
"Our Romantic Evening"

 1. An unpleasant sensation occurring in varying degrees of severity as consequence of injury, disease, or emotional disorder.

November 26, 2011

Not at this very minute!

This is the demon my husband is fighting...

I don't want the remainder of our time to be spent ONLY talking about f'ing cancer.
How do you get to the place where you just talk about the 
weather or politics or the Kardashians? 

Excuse me:  There's a knock on the door.  The white haired nurse shakes my 
finally sleeping husband awake to ask him.... 
How's your pain doin'?...  
It's interesting how sometimes a thought can appear in your minds eye like a movie.   
When I finally came to I was happy to see that I hadn't punched her in 
her red lipsticked lips.
As I was saying...I want to talk about the time we went to _____________ ;

or about the other time when we were naked at ___________________;

 or remember when we ate___________.

But there is no time for that...

No No No... 
We need to talk about this and only this... 
 Right now and always...
I just ain't gonna do that.  I'm gonna start talking about the fun times - the happy times - 
the times we laughed together - our beautiful children - the ocean that we did really once 
walk on - the wines we have shared - the foods we have loved - the love we have made. 
 I am not going to only talk about this sick and perverse cancer that is taking my husband.   
This will not be our only thought...
...at least not at this very minute. 

November 24, 2011

Thanks - Giving

A picture that comes up when you Google 
Thanksgiving Meaning

So we're all supposed to count our "blessings" on Thanksgiving because of the Pilgrim/ Indian thing that happened.  

O.K.  I'll give it a try and see how it plays out...

  1. I have 3 healthy children (twins 9; baby 16 mos.) that barely get the sniffles
  2. I live in a beautiful home AND I can afford the mortgage
  3. I have wonderful friends that love me inside of their hearts
  4. I have wonderful strangers who have shown amazing love for me
  5. I have an amazingly fabulous mother who has given her life for me
  6. I have a daddy who will do anything to help and always does
  7. I have 3 healthy children (worth mentioning twice)
  8. I am healthy and without need of medicine
  9. I have plenty of food to eat, and I eat plenty of it
  10. I have cars that can take me anywhere I'd like to go, and can afford gas.
  11. I have family who I am in contact with - some don't have that - I can't imagine
  12. I have credit card debt that won't bankrupt me
  13. I have 3 healthy children (for this I am grateful)
  14. My children get to watch their daddy die of cancer.

Next year, please don't suggest that I 
think of all the blessings I have in my life.

November 22, 2011

People whose swatches just came in for the 

Shaq - need I say more?


Sam McMurray who has only been in everything!!!

Chynna Phillips


Bruce Weitz (Dog Breath) Hill Street Blues Baby


Come for lunch SHANIA please.

Dear Shania,

The most beautiful women on this planet.

The woman whose concert I took my husband to.

The woman who my husband swears winked at him while we stood in the fourth row.

The woman who he talks about me looking like. <wink>

The woman who can help make a dying man's wish come true.

Below is a video to you from me....the other woman.

I don't beg often, but I am begging now.

Please come to my home. Sit with my husband. Laugh with him, sing with him, chat with him.

With love,


November 17, 2011

Where will you be when you're older?

This is the picture I had in mind when Eric and I married.  Two ole people walkin'
together toward the ....
...whatever happens next.

To think that OUR...whatever happens when you're really old is happening now...

...is not something I prepared for

Will WE walk down the aisle with OUR daughter

When OUR son kisses his baby will WE be there to see it?

What is happening now is WE are together right now. 

 I love you Eric

November 16, 2011

Comfort Quilt On ABC News


The children of a suburban man wanted to do something for their father who is battling cancer. They finally came with an idea they liked, and they asked some celebrities to help.
It is a tapestry of gratitude and grief, a quilt, though still in pieces, that is helping tie one family together.
"I can't believe that I need this quilt. And I wish that I didn't need it," said wife Alyce Riedesel.
Forty-seven-year-old Eric Riedesel, of Antioch, was diagnosed with a rare and incurable form of kidney cancer nine months ago.

For his wife and three children, time has stood still.
"Some days are unbearable. And the other days are just hard. And sometimes for a minute you can forget. For a minute," said Alyce.
About a month ago, 9-year-old twins Harrison and Adelaide decided they would make a quilt for dad, and send panels to friends and relatives to sign.
They decided to send them to dad's favorite celebrities as well, along with a return envelope and a letter explaining his illness.
"Only a hundred people get this kind of cancer each year. I told him that makes him special," Adelaide said.
"I thought they would never sign it. I thought they would get a manager or someone to do it," said Harrison.
But return the panels they have, dozens of celebrities, from actors Michael Douglas, to Joan Rivers, to Jennifer Love Hewitt.
"Generous and very caring of others," Harrison said.
Chicago Bears players have signed it, as did the first President Bush.
"I didn't know George Bush, Sr. was going to do it," said Adelaide.
"It like takes time away from thinking of all the negatives again," said Harrison.
Eric Riedesel didn't feel up to an interview Wednesday, but his kids soon plan to give him the quilt.
"I think once my dad sees it, he's going to be really proud of us that we tried to do this and stuff, and we did," said Adelaide.
"I'm very grateful that we have the quilt," said Alyce. "I'm very, very grateful for all the help that I've gotten."
For more information about getting quilt panels: alyceiscurious@gmail.com | alyceiscurious.blogspot.com

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....my beautiful children.  YES that's me.
My beautiful children talk about what the Comfort Quilt means to them.  We are grateful for your help.

From the Heart

A letter from Adelaide

Our Big Girl
I found out my dad has kidney cancer in February. Only 100 people get his kind of cancer every year. I told him that makes him special. Mom told me people who have dad’s cancer die. She said if he just had the vanilla ice-cream part of cancer it wouldn’t be bad but he also has chocolate sauce on it which is really bad. There is no medicine that makes it go away. The medicine he takes makes him really sick. I thought medicine makes people feel better. The doctors don’t know when he’s going to die and I don’t either. My mom and my dad cry sometimes. I cry a lot.
I see a counselor, Robin, who helps me talk about dad and other stuff. We came up with an idea to make dad a quilt that would help him not be so cold. We thought we would ask all of dads friends and family to write or draw on a piece of fabric to make the quilt. Then I thought we could ask people he doesn’t know in real life, but people who are important to him, like you. I want dad to know everyone, everywhere loves him and is hoping he will be o.k. It’s good to feel like I can do something to help out because so many times I’m not sure what I can do to fix dad’s cancer. He doesn’t know a thing about it, so I’m really excited!
If you know someone famous and would like a piece of fabric for them to sign, email my mom at alyceiscurious@gmail.com.
Thank you,

Change Your Thinking 
Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.
One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. 
His bed was next to the room's only window. 
The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. 
The men talked for hours on end. 
They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window. 
The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside. 
The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. 

Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. 
As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene. 
One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by. 
Although the other man could not hear the band - he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. 
Days, weeks and months passed. 
One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. 
She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away. 
As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone. 
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. 
He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed. 
It faced a blank wall. 

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window. 
The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. 
She said, 'Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.' 
There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. 

November 15, 2011

Not sure if I could be more.......


...I just asked my husband who has a big scar from his nephrectomy (fully removing his left kidney)

...I just asked my husband who has Stage IV inoperable Kidney Cancer

...I just asked my husband who is in pain 24 hours per day

...I just asked my husband if he would like a patch that he can put on his scar to make it less noticeable.

...I just told myself.  You are STUPID STUPID STUPID.

November 14, 2011

Comfort Quilt "WHO WE GOT" update!!

What do ALL of these people have in common?

Da Bears
Ralph Covert
Joan Rivers

The Mix
Charlie Sheen 

Tuc Watkins
Cast of Young & The Restless
Astronaut Greg Chamitoff

Jerry Krause

Jennifer Love
Stiller & Meara
Michael Douglas

The 41st President of the United States